Being a parent is hard. Doing the job solo? Even harder! Considering and catering to all of the needs of your children can be overwhelming and completely time-consuming… so what does this mean for your dating life?
In this article, we are going to speak nothing but the TRUTH about dating as a single parent. We are going to review every myth in the book… debunking all of the single-parent fallacies along the way.
Are you a single parent looking to find out what it’s like out there?! Look no further! By the end of this article, you will have all of the information you need to improve your confidence while you date as a single parent.
SPOILER ALERT! If you are interested in dating but need a little motivation, read to the end to learn our 3 favorite perks that come with dating as a single parent.
MYTHS About Dating as a Single Parent
- You have to do it.
As a single parent, have you ever had someone try to pressure you into dating? Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to jump into the dating pool before you felt ready?
If you answered yes, we want you to know one thing: dating is a choice that is YOURS, and yours only. The idea that it is an obligation is a complete myth.
- It’s selfish.
On the other end of the spectrum, if you have the desire to date, you may have been told that this decision is selfish, and even neglectful towards your children.
Single parent or not, society loves to guilt parents into believing that they are doing everything wrong. They will judge you for not dating, and they will judge you for choosing to commit time towards pursuing a potential relationship.
At the end of the day, the choice is yours. You will never be able to please everyone, so the most important thing that you can do is consider what will empower you and your children to live a happy life!
- No one will be interested.
We are calling MYTH on this one! A lot of times, single parents struggle to re-enter the dating pool as they feel like they are not the same youthful, hopeful, doting single person that they once were.
While you are most likely NOT the same person that you used to be, that is probably for the best. Since your last experience dating, you have learned lessons, become wiser, and gained new skills. You have so much to offer!
- There are no options.
Dating may feel this way, but it’s simply not true! In this day and age- where singles have access to other singles from across the world through apps, websites, and social media- the world is your oyster!
There is no reason to rush or lower your standards just because you haven’t been able to find your soulmate within a 5-mile radius of your house. Take all of the time you need and trust the process!
PERKS of Dating as a Single Parent
In the case that you have a desire to date but are needing a little motivational push to get started (no pressure!), we have compiled a concise list of the top reasons that dating as a single parent might be a good idea:
- It’s an opportunity to meet new people (romantically OR platonically!)
If you are feeling anxious about dating, take the pressure off! Forget about finding your husband or wife, and focus on taking a chance at meeting someone new and enjoying their company.
- It’s designated kid-free time.
Most parents resonate with the fact that kid-free time can be hard to come by. Think of your next date night as a rejuvenation opportunity, instead of a high-stress, awkward moment.
- You can try new things and get to know yourself differently!
Meeting new people means having fresh conversations that can spark new interests, hobbies, and even goals! Allow yourself to expand your horizons with each new conversation you have. Your future self will thank you!
At the end of the day, whether or not it is the right time to jump into the dating game is up to you. While it can certainly be intimidating, it can also be empowering and even enjoyable!
Dating doesn’t have to be the high-stress, goal-oriented activity that it has a sour reputation of being. Remember that if you want to do it, it should be done on your terms and according to whatever makes you comfortable!